The past few months have brought us not only pandemic but also a large degree of pandemonium.
In that time I have read, and listened to, politicians, experts, and friends telling me their thoughts, ideas, and mostly, their “knowledge.” Some tell me Covid-19 is a deadly virus and we need to lock-down, keep our physical distance, wear a mask, and listen to experts and authorities. Others tell me it is all a hoax, or at least not as harmful as we are told. Still others tell me that the reaction from authorities is an over-reaction and that personal and individual liberties are under threat.I do not wish to enter into a never-ending,
continuous cycle of claim, counter-claim and ultimately futile
conversation. I acknowledge I have no
knowledge, no background study or education, in any of this. Hence, I can offer no opinion on the
rights/wrongs of the measures taking place.
I do, however, know how I can act in the world at this time.
Thinking of how to act I arrived at this C.O.V.I.D.
attitude and understanding:
C
is
for Compassion. There has been a lot of
anger, blame-gaming, and name-calling by many on all sides during this
time. Compassion allows me to step back
from these cul-de-sacs and allow me to have compassion for those who have had
loved ones die. I can find compassion
for those embroiled in accusations and counter-accusations. Furthermore, I have compassion for myself,
for my own fears, uncertainties, and weariness.
O
is
for Observing, especially observing emotional responses. I notice in others, and in myself, that many
of our emotional responses arise from a place of fear. For some it is a fear of illness or even
death – of themselves or a loved one.
For some it is a fear of loss of work and hence, loss of income. Yet others fear the loss of personal, or
individual, liberty. I can observe all
of these fears arising in my own reactions and thoughts.
V
is
for Valuing each moment. When I
meditate, or remind myself of the practice of Mindfulness, my emotional state
shifts towards ease and I can enter a zone of contentment, accepting what is
without judgment. Valuing each moment
allows me to be present with my own feelings and also present to the particular
engagements I may have with others from moment to moment.
I
is
for Inter-being. Inter-being is a term coined by the Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh
who (with a nod to Descartes) expresses it as: “I am, therefore you are. You
are, therefore I am. We inter-are.” When I try to fully understand this, it
becomes extremely difficult, if not impossible, to point fingers, name-call, or
describe others as fools or idiots, meanwhile suggesting a woke1 attribution to myself and those who think like
me. Furthermore, the notion of inter-being
does not stop with humanity; it extends to the whole planetary system. Thus, the ways in which we have treated
(mis-treated is more apt) nature has profound repercussions for us. We cannot isolate ourselves from nature, and
in our attempt to do so (an enterprise we have been on for centuries) we
disrupt the intricate networks so much that something, somewhere, is going to
give. Now that it has – we don’t like
it. (I’ll just leave that last sentence
hanging.)
D
is
for Death. Stephen Jenkinson2
describes our western-styled culture as “…death-phobic
and grief-illiterate.” Death-phobia
leads to death-denial and death-fearing.
We do all in our power to put off death and keep living, even if by
keeping living we are no longer living.
Yet, as we know, and Buddhism reminds us, everything is
impermanent. Everything passes. Yet, our aversion to death ironically means
we approach life with impunity.
Perversely, our refusal to face death means we fail to live life
fully. Covid-19 brings us, if we are
willing to allow it, face-to-face with our mortality. And, being grief-illiterate we fail to
recognise the love that is part and parcel of grief, slipping more easily into anger
or despair.
Each of these five actions/attitudes are
inter-connected, and the reader should treat them that way. In doing so, you will discover your own
meanings and connections.
For me, these five interconnected attitudes allow me
to act in the world during a time of chaos, misunderstandings, confusion, and
doubts. Ultimately, how I act is of far
more importance than my opinion on the rights and wrongs of the debates on
Covid-19.
Note:
1. Woke is
a term borrowed – or stolen – from the Black Lives Matter movement, and
essentially means to have an awareness of racial and social justice issues
2. Stephen
Jenkinson, Die Wise: A Manifesto for
Sanity and Soul, North Atlantic Books, Berkeley, 2015