During the
first century after adoption the word hardly entered common parlance. It began
to be used more often from the mid-20th century onward and by the mid-1980s
was being used once in every 100 million words used.
However,
since then its use has skyrocketed to being used once in every ten million
words by 2020. A massive tenfold upsurge in less than forty years!
Prior to schadenfreude
English had the word gloat from the 16th century. Originally
it meant to look at furtively and has a common root with the familiar glower.
Parallel with the use of schadenfreude, gloat has also become more
frequently used since the 1980s, having quadrupled in use in the same forty
years.
What does
this say about our culture? Are we becoming further and further disconnected
from one another to the extent that we talk more often about finding joy in
someone else’s lack of joy?
The words
we use have an influence upon our worldview and our cultural psyche, and vice
versa. Hence, a word such as schadenfreude both describes our worldview
and shapes it at the same time.
Certainly,
when we look around, and listen to some of the conversations around us, we hear
examples of this often. The game of “us” versus “them” is frequently played out.
Racism, sexism, and other forms of prejudice play this game. One of the prizes
in this game is when the “us” team defeats the “them” team and “we” are able to
gloat over the misfortune of “them.” That is schadenfreude.
An
Antonym
Does
English have an antonym to schadenfreude?
It appears
not. English has words that come close to the meaning of being unhappy at
someone else’s misfortune: e.g. sympathy, pity, compassion. But English does
not have a specific word meaning to be happy at someone else’s happiness, joy,
or good fortune.
Other
languages do. The Pali language, for example, has the word muditā,
meaning the joyfulness that comes from delighting in the joy of others. The
word is used in Hindu texts that are at least two thousand years old, and was
used by the Buddha even earlier.
Muditā has been in use in the Pali
language, and others in India and surrounding areas, for well over two
millennia. It has made a significant contribution to the worldview of cultures
in that part of the world.
English,
and German, it would seem have not been influenced by any similar words.
It’s time
we found one.
An attempt
was made by a commune in the Haight-Ashbury neighbourhood of San Francisco in
the early 1980s. The Kerista Commune was an intentional grouping of people who
believed in and practiced polyamory. In an effort to reject sentiments such as
jealousy and envy the commune members fashioned the word compersion, from
the French word compère (partner) and the English suffix sion. The
meaning attributed to the word however was limited. It signified the happiness
one felt for the happiness of a partner. Compersion was not extended to
others outside the polyamorous community.
So, the
English language is still looking for a word that means to take delight in the
joy, happiness, or good fortune of others, whether of one’s immediate grouping
or outside that grouping.
At a time
when we English speakers are using words associated with finding joy in others
discomfort more frequently, the search for an antonym for schadenfreude and
gloat is vital.
The other
approach we could use is to regularly appreciate, applaud, and find joy in the
happiness of others. Out of such a milieu an antonym for schadenfreude might
emerge.






